Five things your customers want from you right now

Want to try something that will open your eyes?

Think for a minute about how many brands or companies you interact with before you ever get to your office in the morning.

I interact with a host of coffee-related companies, then a handful of soap, shave and shampoo-related companies. I interact with the cable company, Twitter, WordPress and the Today Show. I interact with my kids’ school. I interact with the dry cleaner. I interact with the gas station. And every now and then if I think I need a treat I interact with Dunkin Donuts or Chick-fil-a.

That’s all before 8:15 a.m.

We interact with tons of brands. Tons of companies. Every day.

And while most of those interactions are unremarkable, the broader relationships can be transformed by knowing what customers want. It’s when we know what customers want and when we deliver it well that we make a real impact in a customer’s life.

What do customers want right now? Five things:

1) Customers want connection.

Feeling unconnected is difficult. People want to be connected to you. Tell them how they can contact you. Tell them when they can contact you. In some cases, people want to be connected with other customers of yours. Help them make those links. Initiate connection by calling, emailing, sending a newsletter, texting or DM’ing. Just don’t spam. People want to feel personally connected to a place they send their money.

2) Customers want information.

If feeling unconnected is difficult, feeling ignorant is worse. Who likes being out of the loop? Who likes having a product they don’t know how to use? Who wants to pull into the drive-through at the bank and find that the name has changed? Who likes having the channel lineup change but no guide to go with it? Feed your customers information, maybe more than they want. They don’t want to feel ignorant.

3) Customers want value.

A friend bought a $700 computer for $500 at Sam’s Club the other day. He was attracted to the price, but was he shopping for a $500 computer and the stuff that comes loaded on a $500 computer? No. He was shopping for a $700 computer and the chips and processors and the 1.21 jigowatts that come loaded on it, but got a great price by paying $500.

People will beat you up over price. They’ll burn $50 in gas driving around town to save $2 on AA batteries. But what they want is value. They want to know that what they have is worth something. They want to know that what they have is worth what they paid for it or more than what they paid for it. That’s value.

Always show customers that what they’re getting is worth what they’re paying for it, or maybe even more.

4) Customers want purpose.

You can read a lot into who your customers think they are or who they want to be from the purchases they make. Our spending is often a few steps ahead of us in terms of who we’re becoming.

If your paper goods shop starts selling more calendars and organizers, you can bet some folks are resolved to become more organized and focused. If you sell juicers and vitamins, your customers have made some choices about what they’re putting in their bodies.

But here’s the thing: customers don’t always have purpose. Sometimes they’re waiting for someone else to give it to them.

Tell them they can run a half marathon. Tell them they can write a book. Tell them they can research and build a family tree that goes back nine generations. Tell them they can change a broken system.

And then watch the money flow.

Not to get in their pocket, but because connecting people with purpose is one of the most powerful things anyone can do.

5) Customers want a path.

You want 100% of your customer’s wallet.

Your customer may or may not be willing to do that, but they’re probably not willing to do it all at once.

Show your customers the path. Show your customers what it’s going to be like to take the next couple of steps with you.

We can make a difference in the lives of our customers when we give them connection, information, value, purpose and a path.

Think about some of the brands you use. What do you want more of from them?

Friday Linking for Thinking

This has been a goofy week around our place, so my normal schedule has been off. For that reason, I don’t have as much to share in today’s Friday Linking for Thinking.

But here are two items you might find interesting:

Good marketing vs. Bad Marketing from Simon Sinek at Start with Why.

7 Steps for Creating a Creative System to be More Creative by Jeremie Kubicek on the Catalyst blog. Think they’re committed to your creativity?

And in case you missed it, we had two posts up here this week:

Five ways to make 2012 a great year

Why your information sources matter

Got big plans for the weekend?

Friday Linking for Thinking

Thanks to Brian for jumping in last week and suggesting a name for this weekly feature. We’ll go with Linking for Thinking for now.

Here’s some stuff worth reading from around the World Wide Web this week:

Training Yourself to See New Strategic Options at Fast Company. Get inside the minds of the greatest chess players to know how to make better choices.

Margins by Kelly at Love Well. Kelly writes with clarity and wisdom about priorities and the season of life her family is walking in right now. She got my attention with this post.

Monday was the Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. holiday. I thought Lora Lynn’s post When Dreams Come True was a simple and symbolic statement of all that Dr. King accomplished.

And from what I can tell, it looks like my RSS feed wasn’t working properly, so there’s a chance you may have missed some of the hot blogging action going on around here. Here are this week’s posts:

What is too much to give?

Five things I know about being a leader

That’s it for this week. What’s something funny that happened to you this week?

Friday roundup

Want to help me out?

I’m looking for a name for this Friday feature other than “Friday roundup.” A “roundup” feels like we should be sitting around a campfire in chaps and cowboy hats eating some chili that a guy we call Cookie made for us.

And I’m reluctant to call it “Friday links” because that sounds like something you might eat with eggs and toast. I don’t know. I’m open to your suggestions.

With that said…

Here’s another collection of some great stuff. I hope you find it helpful:

Forget Big Data. How About Starting Small? by Valeria Maltoni at Conversation Agent put into words something I’ve been thinking for a long time. Companies miss opportunities because they don’t capitalize on what they already have.

Learning vs. Arrogant Organizations: A Lesson in Survival by Maurilio Amorim. Many organizations, rather than merely stumbling towards diminishing returns, are actually headed for obsolescence. Maurilio defines the difference maker.

Stop Waiting to be Picked by Jeff Goins is a must read for everyone. Jeff’s audience is primarily writers, but the truth is good for everyone: You don’t need permission in life. You can give it to yourself. Go read Jeff’s post.

And here’s something to make you laugh this week: Important New Emoticons at McSweeney’s.

In case you missed it, we had two posts up here this week:

Deep relationships and different conversations

Unraveling the web of overcommitment

What has been the best part of your week so far?

Friday roundup

I thought I’d end the week by sharing some good stuff I read this week.

The Secret of Life from Steve Jobs in 46 Seconds at Brain Pickings has three video clips of an interview with a healthy, thick-bearded Steve Jobs. Here are some words I found inspirational:

“When you grow up you, tend to get told that the world is the way it is and your life is just to live your life inside the world, try not to bash into the walls too much, try to have a nice family, have fun, save a little money. That’s a very limited life. Life can be much broader, once you discover one simple fact, and that is that everything around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you. And you can change it, you can influence it, you can build your own things that other people can use. Once you learn that, you’ll never be the same again.”

7 Steps to Making Goals You Can Keep by Jeremy Statton is a helpful post, particularly as we march into a fresh new year. Go have a look.

And to keep things from getting too serious around here, I’d invite you to have a look at A List of Don’ts for Women on Bicycles Circa 1895 at Brain Pickings. My favorite instruction? “Don’t cultivate a bicycle face.” The question I ask myself every day is: “Am I making a bicycle face right now?”

In case you missed it, we had two posts up here this week, so check those out before you go:

Three benefits of being more authentic

Rich experiences create new realities

There’s some stuff to munch on. I hope you enjoy. Now, how’s your week been? How would you describe it in one word?

If blogging is one of your resolutions, this might help

If you’re flirting with the idea if starting your own blog in 2012, let me say this:

Do it. For many reasons, it’s time well spent.

For some practical and philosophical help on how to get started, here’s a series I put together at the beginning of 2011 that you might find useful.

2007 was my year, is 2011 yours?

Getting started: I don’t have anything to say

Getting started: Create your blog

Getting started: But I can’t write

Getting started: Publicize your blog

If you take the leap, will you let me know? I’d love to be one of your readers!

 

Five things I know about being a husband: Listening

I wonder what Mary Craig’s response would be if you asked her:

“What kind of listener is Leighton?”

I’d rank myself a 7 out of 10. It’s not so much that I’m not a great listener as it is that I’m not a great retainer.

How good are you at listening?

I said, HOW GOOD ARE YOU AT LISTENING?!?!?!

One thing I know about being a husband is that there are benefits to having an active and disciplined ear. Here’s what I’ve learned:

I gain wisdom when I listen to my wife. Mary Craig and I view a lot of big life stuff similarly, but she consistently speaks works into our home about work, family, money, God – you name it – that help me see things I didn’t see.

I tell my wife I love her by listening to her. Here’s what I mean. You subtly (or maybe not-so-subtly) communicate your estimation of value to someone when you listen, don’t listen or half-listen to them. When I can drop all the distractions and engage with Mary Craig, I show her that she’s fully valued.

I can be a better dad by listening to her. Kids get really confused by inconsistency. If I’m not tuned in to what Mary Craig has already done during the day, we run the risk of being inconsistent when I’m around. Right now, when our kids are relatively young, inconsistency is just confusing to them. But as they get older, inconsistency will come back around and bite us as the kids learn to exploit it against us.

I get ideas for gifts by listening to her. I hate getting to a birthday, anniversary or Christmas and just hearing {…duuuhhhh…} when I try to think of something to get for Mary Craig. At some point, I figured out that I could look for clues about what she would like by simply listening to her. In everyday conversation, it’s common for us to talk about products we use that we like. Or things around the house that we’d like to replace. Or to daydream and look at stuff for the house online. I try to make mental notes of those things so that when it’s gift-buying time, I’m getting something she really wants.

I can lead my family better when I listen to her. Mary Craig’s entire day is about us. She really never gets away from us. I, on the other hand, am with the kids for about three hours a day. So while I’m called to lead our family, it would be absolutely pointless to try to lead our family without esteeming Mary Craig’s perspective as the person most heavily invested in our family life. She is in a better position to give insight about the pace of life, the needs of the family as a whole, and the needs of the individuals. I am a better leader – meaning I am better able to serve – when I give my wife my ear.

What did I miss? What other benefits – philosophical or practical – build up when there’s good listening happening in a relationship?

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving was a treat.

Here’s our day in pictures – in reverse order, because that’s how my phone loaded them onto WordPress. You can just pretend I’m super-creative and I’m blogging Thanksgiving in reverse like that episode of Seinfeld.

MC and I crashed on the couch after the kids were in bed and discovered The Godfather on AMC. We fought with all our might to stay awake, but waved the white flag and called it a night at 9:30.

After the kitchen was clean, Nana went home and everyone laid around for a while. I played some Wii with the baby. The big kids did crafts in the kitchen. Then we played a big family game of Cranium. Boys against girls. Here’s a shot of the boys team:

Of course, before all that, we sat down as a family to share in a big Thanksgiving feast. Here’s a look at the meal. Clockwise from the top you’ve got roasted broccoli, mashed potatoes, oyster casserole, chestnut dressing, a roll, turkey and cranberry sauce.

Yum.

This was only MC’s second year doing a whole turkey. The bird turned out great, mainly because it brined overnight and then she stuffed it full of apples and onions, sage and rosemary, then massaged the thing with canola oil.

By the time we started cooking, we’d already had a pretty busy day. We were up and out the door by 7:45 to report to the starting line for the annual Turkey Trot. We joined 4,000 of our closest friends for a 3 mile stroll through Johnson City.

The great thing about a town this size is that at an event like that, you can’t help but bump into a bunch of people you know, so we got to say hi to lots of folks as we made our way toward the finish line. At the end, the kids got a medal for finishing, so they were pretty excited.

We treated ourselves to a post-Turkey Trot trip through the Starbucks drive-through on our way home to cook. Here’s a pic of the fam before the Turkey Trot:

I hope you had a great Thanksgiving. Any good stories to share?

The park

I’m testing to see if I can post photos to my blog from my Apple Internet Cellular Telephone Version 4.

These pics are from a trip to the park on Saturday. Unless, of course, you don’t see them. In that case, just imagine a beautiful day at the park.

Go first with grace

You can’t earn it.

I wonder how much would be different in the world if we could really understand that.

In what ways am I teaching my kids that they can buy my affection? Do I withhold my praise, my affirmation and my encouragement until I see the results I want?

In what ways to I try to perform for Mary Craig? To buy her love? To stack up nice words and gestures so that I’ll have her approval?

Grace is unmerited favor.

God’s love for me is unmerited. I’ve done nothing to earn it.

I can’t earn it. You can’t earn it.

He loves us because He loves us.

And still, we make each other perform.

We dispense our praise and affection and encouragement in response to what others do for us.

We even do the same thing to God.

We praise Him when we see him moving in our lives. We love him because of what he does for us.

Could your family stand to be loved a little more like God loves you? I’m sure mine could.

Here’s what I’m committing to do at my house. Give it a shot at your house if you like:

Love your wife because you love her. Love your kids because you love them.

Not because of anything they can do for you.

Or you think they should do for you.

Or used to do for you.

Or the neighbor’s ___________ does for them.

While we were enemies of God because of sin, we were reconciled to him by the death of his son. Because he loves us.

Go first with grace, knowing that you did nothing to earn the greatest love you’ll ever experience.